A PENNY FOR YOUR THOUGHT

I was young when I first heard that phrase, “A penny for your thought”. I’m not sure who used it first, my mum or dad but the first time I heard and understood it, it was like music to my ears. I practically used it in every sentence I made for a week…and you know how it goes with kids when it come to new toys. You play with it none stop until you get a new one then you dump the old one.

Not until last week while a couple of my friends and I were discussing some issues facing the young adults of today that the phrase came to mind again.

Śādī – love the Hindu word for marriage. I love the way it's pronounced.

Marriage, a very sensitive yet exciting topic that most people forget that it is not just all about the D-day but the moments after the D-day that is the real deal.



Though the statistic of divorce rate in the world right now is dropping but few years ago the high rate was so alarming to the extent that a lot of young adults would rather have a relationship known as what my mother would call "Why get the cow when you are getting the milk" kind of arrangement. It was safer that way, young adults weren't longer risk takers.



Everywhere you look, there is always a failed marriage, reminding you that "You had better play it smart and safe or you are going to get hurt". As my friends and i continued with our discussion, we discovered that the reasons why there are a lot of failed marriages which most times end up in divorce, is that people fail at communicating.

Now, kindly let me explain what i mean by this form of communicate, because it is definitely different from the usual communication required of any couple.

This form of communication requires one to talk about all crazy stuff before, during and after marriage and the interesting part is that this communication is not only with your spouse but with people around you. Where best can one get information if not from people who have been there and done that. Someone once said that "You can't know more than the OLD, because the OLD has more experience at being YOUNG and being OLD, whereas the YOUNG only has experience at being YOUNG".

What i am trying to say is, A PENNY FOR YOUR THOUGHT and maybe it may save a life or two and help bring joy to homes.

Many at times, i hear married women/men hide by lying about their marriage. They pretend that all is well and rosy, knowing well that it isn't. This makes me wonder why they do what they do?

Don't they realise that they are kind of an ambassador to that institution called marriage? Don't they realise that some group of people are watching to learn and see how it is done? Or maybe, it is just out of spite to those who aren't married, or maybe they just want them to make the same mistakes, so that the world would be a better place.

Whatever the reason, A PENNY FOR YOUR THOUGHT. Please make sense of what marriage is by discussing what you are going through with 'us' and maybe 'we' won't be as judgemental about it as we are.

We live in a world that is so hypocritical of a lot of stuff and due to that people aren't true to themselves any longer. And how would they, when the society will be so quick to judge them. The truth is that Marriage is like training a child - an old african adage says that "a woman gives birth to a child be the whole town helps to train that child".




So again, i ask pleading, A PENNY FOR YOUR THOUGHT!!!!

Real n True
Gentlehawk

LIFE! OH LIFE!!

You know every time i open my blog page, i lose my inspiration to write and i have come to realize that my inspiration, like my heart, has a mind of its own. It usually show up in the weirdest places, like when i am in the shower, or doing my business(don't pretend you don't know what i'm talking about), or cooking, or even at the peak of work day or like this story i'm about to tell you, while driving. 

 It is amazing how thoughts just keep streaming out of my head but i don't have the chance or time to put it down. 

However, just like one of TED speakers who once told that inspiration "thing" to behave and yelled back at it "Can't it see i am driving, come back when we are both not busy". 

It may sound hilarious but it kinda true. Anyways, this very day while driving to work, which i do a lot and not that i enjoy it. In this part of my world, transport systems sucks. So having a car is no luxury like most people think, in fact if i had a better option i would go for it.

Though sometimes it could be interesting, but many atimes it is pure madness, just like this very day that i was almost ran over by another road user. The guy was such in a hurry that it didn't matter who got hurt as long as he gets to where he was going. 

At first i felt angry at him, for putting me and others in danger because of his craziness, then after a moment or two, i felt nothing.......and then i felt pity for him. If only he know, understand and accepted the fact of Life, he won't be in such a hurry. 

 The driver or my co-road user, doesn't seem to understand that both of us aren't going to the same destination and that competing with me or anyone else on the road for that matter doesn't make sense.I have my destination and he has his. Even if he gets there (his destination) first it doesn't really matter because it is not my destination and i am not planning to go to his destination. And because I have my destination, i will get there at my own time. 

The fact that we are both using the same route doesn't imply that we are meant to be heading in the same destination. Been ahead of me doesn't necessarily mean that i would or can't overtake him too. Truth be told, many of us drive our lives just the same way. 

We are in a habit of living our lives based on someone else's. We all are created for a particular destination, our timing will therefore be different. Because you got to your destination before me doesn't mean I won't get to mine at my own time. 

Like my kid sister use to say, 'In life, there is always room for latecomers'.

So why not enjoy the now as we drive through our lives. And don't be in such hurry in getting to the destination that you miss out in the beauty, the warmth, the growth and peace that's all around us. Just like driving, people forget to take cognizance of the fact that we get to do this only once because scenery change, situation change no matter how many times we drive through that route it is never ever the same process. 

So why not enjoy your now on the way to where you are going. 

Be True and Real.

Real Gentlehawk