We are all familiar with these two words....and probably use or hear them every day. And as most everyday words that we use, we have somehow taken these words for granted.
Would one say it is because most times, it is used without an indepth understanding of its meaning?
"I care"....."I care about you", "I care about the earth", "I care about him/her", "I care about the homeless children", "It's because we care", "We care about this, we care about that".
But do we really care or, is it that we only care about ourselves? Is it about the person or people we care about or does it really balls down to our need to save ourselves unwanted pain or discomfort. We are so involve with ourselves so much to the extend that those we claim to care about are mostly hurt by us.
Lately, i found out that to care about someone or anyone, one needs to understand the true meaning of selflessness which by the way, can't be found in the built dictionary of alot of us.
The definition of SELFLESSNESS (n) according to Oxford Advanced learner's Dictionary defines it as "an ability to think more about the needs, happiness etc, of other people than about your own". Hard right? Yep!! However fear not, I hear this act can be learnt or imbibe. And no, can't help you on that one....you will have the expert on the act.
The act of selflessness is in the giving all and not expecting or wanting nothing; selflessness is a gift that is very rare especially in these callous and uncertain days. People with this attribute have nothing yet own all things.That's because they have all they need and want. They radiate with joy and gladness.
So, when we say we care, is it for selflessness or selfishness reasons? If notice, the "SELF" is quite apparent in both but it the degree at which it is apparent that matters.....MORE or LESS.
Therefore, before you tell someone you care.....ask yourself is it for more or less?
Be true n be Real!!
It's Gentlehawk
