HAPPILY EVER AFTER 2

Hey guys, hope you enjoyed my last blog….but if not, be nice and not say anything. But if you did enjoy my last blabbing then you might enjoy this love poem I found many years ago which I think perfectly summarizes what I’ve been trying to say in the last blog. Though it is may refer to marriage but let’s focus on the relationship part of all this. And if you are mushy as I am then you will love it as I did and mostly importantly, open your heart to understand thing more than I can explain. Well the truth is I don’t proof read my blog, just write it as I think it. Why, you ask? Because I hate perfect and in-the-box, and when I do proof read I change what should be and the fact is this blog is more than me, it’s you, it’s us and being real and true to ourselves.

CHOOSE TO LOVE I married a man I respect, I have no need to bow or defer, I married a man I adore and admire, I don’t need to be handed a list entitle, ‘How to build his ego’ or, ‘The male need for admiration’, Love, worship, loyalty, trust – there are inside me, They motivate my actions, To reduce them to rules destroys my motivation, I choose to serve him, to enjoy him, We choose to live together and grow together, To stretch our capacities for love together, Even when it hurts and look like a conflict, We choose to learn to know each other, As real people, as two unique individuals, Unlike any other two, Our marriage is a commitment to love, To belong to each other, To know and understand, To care, To share ourselves, our goals, our interests, Our desires, our needs, Out of that commitment the action follows.

Peace and out!!! Gentlehawk

HAPPILY EVER AFTER

    Do happily ever after do really happen, or is it a long far fetch dream of people who don’t want to come in tune with reality? 

In my opinion, and I repeat again, IN MY OPINION, I think happily ever after does happen but only to those who really work for it and are open to the endless possibilities it brings with it. Not to forget that, to be happy in every sense, is a choice one has to make. No matter how far or how long, happiness isn’t in tangible things but in intangible things.

The Cinderella tales or the Rapunzel story may be fables but in every stories or fables there is always an iota or element of truth. 

Some people don’t even believe in ‘happily ever after’ and this is like saying you don’t believe in dogs and again that is my opinion. Thinking of this makes me kind of realize that we determine our own happily ever after, even Snow White had to work out her ‘happily ever after’ with her seven dwarfs. 

So if you want to have any ‘happily ever after’ relationships (formal or informal) there’s got to be a WORKING. So how do you WORK at a relationship you don’t know even know if it will work or needs working? Hmmm, good point? 

 Well, the truth of the matter is that anything worth having needs WORK. When I was younger, I heard some say that "Even heavenly made marriage need a down to earth maintenance”. Don’t know how true that is but it makes sense.

 

Most of the time we just lay back and think we will figure things out along the way. Hell no, things don’t just happen…you have to make it happen. 

Playing my role in any relationship is one way to make it work. 

Getting information and education on how to make relationship is also a point breaker. 

You need to know and understand what makes any relationship work. When you have information on how relationship works, even when you feel like you have had enough of driving the car, you just keep on steering and not give up because you know that it is just but for a season. 

Never leave any relationship to chance, believe me if you do it will come back to bite you in the ass. Most times we have this misconception that the grass is greener on the other side when the truth of the matter is that the grass isn’t and it only looks green on the other side because the other side waters its grass. 

 So, if you want a happily ever after relationship don’t leave it to chance. Get information, play your part and work at it. If you want, get it. 

So be real and be true, to yourself 

Peace!!! Gentlehawk

LIFE! OH LIFE!!

You know every time i open my blog page, i lose my inspiration to write and i have come to realize that my inspiration, like my heart, has a mind of its own. It usually show up in the weirdest places, like when i am in the shower, or doing my business(don't pretend you don't know what i'm talking about), or cooking, or even at the peak of work day or like this story i'm about to tell you, while driving. 

 It is amazing how thoughts just keep streaming out of my head but i don't have the chance or time to put it down. 

However, just like one of TED speakers who once told that inspiration "thing" to behave and yelled back at it "Can't it see i am driving, come back when we are both not busy". 

It may sound hilarious but it kinda true. Anyways, this very day while driving to work, which i do a lot and not that i enjoy it. In this part of my world, transport systems sucks. So having a car is no luxury like most people think, in fact if i had a better option i would go for it.

Though sometimes it could be interesting, but many atimes it is pure madness, just like this very day that i was almost ran over by another road user. The guy was such in a hurry that it didn't matter who got hurt as long as he gets to where he was going. 

At first i felt angry at him, for putting me and others in danger because of his craziness, then after a moment or two, i felt nothing.......and then i felt pity for him. If only he know, understand and accepted the fact of Life, he won't be in such a hurry. 

 The driver or my co-road user, doesn't seem to understand that both of us aren't going to the same destination and that competing with me or anyone else on the road for that matter doesn't make sense.I have my destination and he has his. Even if he gets there (his destination) first it doesn't really matter because it is not my destination and i am not planning to go to his destination. And because I have my destination, i will get there at my own time. 

The fact that we are both using the same route doesn't imply that we are meant to be heading in the same destination. Been ahead of me doesn't necessarily mean that i would or can't overtake him too. Truth be told, many of us drive our lives just the same way. 

We are in a habit of living our lives based on someone else's. We all are created for a particular destination, our timing will therefore be different. Because you got to your destination before me doesn't mean I won't get to mine at my own time. 

Like my kid sister use to say, 'In life, there is always room for latecomers'.

So why not enjoy the now as we drive through our lives. And don't be in such hurry in getting to the destination that you miss out in the beauty, the warmth, the growth and peace that's all around us. Just like driving, people forget to take cognizance of the fact that we get to do this only once because scenery change, situation change no matter how many times we drive through that route it is never ever the same process. 

So why not enjoy your now on the way to where you are going. 

Be True and Real.

Real Gentlehawk